There should be a “safe word” for those of us that have thought this thing through. There should be a high sign or symbol that identifies people that are not trying to repeat the sins of our fathers. Wouldn’t it be nice if you knew that the person you just met is cool by some common symbol? We join groups looking for people like us all the time. We look for those cues all the time. It’s how we start as children. We continue as adults. We soon look for ways to “read” a person but people aren’t that easy.
If you are a woman for example, you learn that all women are not to be trusted. And guess what? That goes for every other group of humanity.
We are placed together by “likes.” We start looking for the visual and then other clues that the people we are near are like us. Soon we learn that it is harder to tell and that people are deceptive. Sometimes its intentional and sometimes not. You can’t trust all anything in one group. Pain and mistakes make you cynical and mistrusting. You learn to doubt the veracity of things that you want to trust.
But this is not everyone. Some people don’t grow. Some stay in homogenous environments where “everything is everything.” Nothing changes except for the calendar. You know the places. It’s the places where the emphasis is on what “so and so” is doing over ideas, and concepts. No one dreams there. Conversations never rise higher than a sports score, a sound bite or at best “TMZ.”
A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
But some minds don’t expand. With freedom comes responsibility. If you want to experience more freedom in your life you have to take more responsibility for your choices.
Freedom makes a huge requirement of every human being. with freedom comes responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up, the person who does not want to carry their own with, this is a frightening prospect. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Our communities are gripped by the “Crab-in-the-bucket syndrome. And there’s no cure in sight. Put a single crab in an uncovered bucket, and it will find a way to climb up and out on its own. Put a dozen crabs in a bucket and eleven will fight with all their might to pull down the one who attempts to escape.